I'm thinking...

 

Self Confidence would be one. Confidence in your partner and confidence in the reasons you both want to do it.

If you are the jealous kind, hold a traditional view of what a relationship is about and if you arent totally 100% singing off the same hymn sheet when it comes to this sort of thing you probably ought not to be considering it.

 

I think first off your relationship should be a sturdy one that can withhold adding others. If you do not have trust and communication and you can keep jealousy at bay then it is not a good idea. As i have said before often times this is not done fairly. The man only wants to add another woman or the woman only wants to add another man. That is really being selfish. Also is a big sign of jealousy.

Anyway you must also be confident and realize it is not a game in out doing one another. And it is not some kind of competition. I have seen this happen with many adding new partners. Then their relationship just falls apart.

 

I dislike the use of the word share as it implies that your partner is just a possession and has no say in the matter!!

Thinskin

 

Must be absolutely zero percent jealousy

 

I usually answer such a question as it would apply to me. This does not mean it is the same with any one else.
In my case the trait that I would need to share my partner is not really caring about my partner. Really they would not be my partner.
I would not share anyone I call a partner. Don't think I would share a friend. Maybe I could share a person I know but have no feelings for or a complete stranger.

 

@RCummings and @Sweetpassion have pretty much nailed this thread. Nothing more to add.

 

Yep, insightful and succinct. The kind of learning I come here for. Thanks!

 

It's easy. If you are happy there is little reason because you are forfilled.

 

Equality....if only one is playing it isnt going to work....at least that's what I have seen.

 

The traits are probably as varied as the number of people who answer the question.
It requires the ability to separate sex and love. The recognize the difference between fucking and making love.
Trust, respect and lack of jealousy are vital to sharing, swapping or swinging.
We’ve also known couples in Dom/Sub relationships where the sub doesn’t necessarily enjoy being shared by the dom but their submission is how they derive pleasure.

 

A strong sense of security in the relationship as opposed to the many that think "by agreeing to it" that it will somehow improve a failing situation which statistically leads to worsening an already unstable relationship. It requires the highest level of trust in and of both partners!

 

The traits required between both partners....
My hunch would be that both parties should share complete trust, honesty and sincerity; both with themselves and each other....
Open communication, both positive and negative, between the couple involved is a complete essential.
Deciding to include other parties, after a monogamous relationship has been established, is going to be fraught with a multitude of psychological pitfalls, insecurities and dangers....
A relationship that starts off with two people sharing a desire or interest in inviting others into the sexual dynamics, stands a far better chance of avoiding the common pitfalls....
But what do I know???
I’m new at all this stuff✨

 

Horny,...Honest,...Open,....Passionate about pleasing your partner,...and some more horny won't hurt.

 

I had a woman tell me once that had lived years of her life in a open marriage. Anything from switching to gang bangs. Threesomes couple swaps. She said people get into these relationships for a few reasons. Either one partner or the other is bored with you. Either one is not as in love as they once was. Or one partner is trying way to hard to please the other partner by granting their every desire. Or something is missing and you are trying to find out what. She said but if your looking to be closer to your spouse and fall more in love. Your on the wrong train the tracks will soon end. Her heartache and advice and life experience really made me think.

 

I would think this is the most common problem.

 

This more or less nailed it!!

thinskin

 

Bottom line, if she's not yours you have nothing to share. I believe it's her call to do what she wants and do who she wants! You should look at yourself as just being a long for the ride.

 

My wife got off on threesome DP porn and at some time I asked her if she would want to be in that position. She said yes and so I offered to arrange that for her. That's how we got our fuck buddy. It's not sharing, it's fulfilling her desires. I was and am still deeply in love with her, and the threesomes made that even stronger, knowing we can do this, but also seeing my gorgeous woman thoroughly enjoy the situation is very hot. I never felt so proud for my woman as on these occasions. Hope that answers the question.

 

Live porno vouyerism - yes, vouyerism would help.